It is not an uncommon thing for parents to fear that if they file for a divorce, that it will negatively affect their children. In many cases this does occur because of how the parents went about the situation, such as poor communication or the children feeling as though it was their fault. The Huffington Post conducted a little research of their own on this very topic, curious as to whether or not children from divorces really are messed up because of their parent’s decision to separate.
Children will share that in homes where their parents fought a lot, the divorce was almost expected and often times a relief for the kids of an angry household. Sure, starting a new life may be difficult, but living in a home where it is obvious that mom and dad don’t love each other anymore is not ideal either. One woman shares her experience of her parents’ divorce when she was 14 years old, and she honestly couldn’t remember her parents having a happy memory, but rather it was all arguments and yelling.
When this girl heard wind of the divorce at their official family meeting, sure she experienced sadness knowing that her family was splitting up, but she also shares that she felt a sense of freedom or a weight lifted off of her. While sharing her story as a 26 year old woman, she looks back and sees that there was so much more to the divorce than she realized.