It is not an uncom­mon thing for par­ents to fear that if they file for a divorce, that it will neg­a­tively affect their chil­dren. In many cases this does occur because of how the par­ents went about the sit­u­a­tion, such as poor com­mu­ni­ca­tion or the chil­dren feel­ing as though it was their fault. The Huff­in­g­ton Post con­ducted a lit­tle research of their own on this very topic, curi­ous as to whether or not chil­dren from divorces really are messed up because of their parent’s deci­sion to separate.
Chil­dren will share that in homes where their par­ents fought a lot, the divorce was almost expected and often times a relief for the kids of an angry house­hold. Sure, start­ing a new life may be dif­fi­cult, but liv­ing in a home where it is obvi­ous that mom and dad don’t love each other any­more is not ideal either. One woman shares her expe­ri­ence of her par­ents’ divorce when she was 14 years old, and she hon­estly couldn’t remem­ber her par­ents hav­ing a happy mem­ory, but rather it was all argu­ments and yelling.
When this girl heard wind of the divorce at their offi­cial fam­ily meet­ing, sure she expe­ri­enced sad­ness know­ing that her fam­ily was split­ting up, but she also shares that she felt a sense of free­dom or a weight lifted off of her. While shar­ing her story as a 26 year old woman, she looks back and sees that there was so much more to the divorce than she realized.